Stages of being laid off


Life / Monday, December 18th, 2017

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I am officially 1/2 of the way through my contract. It’s a real shame that it is so close to Christmas. I have this inevitable gloom of uncertainty hanging over my head. I know, suck it up and apply for a new job. I have. I’ve applied for well over 10 jobs. I am just stuck and defeated.



We just bought a house that we love 4 months before being laid off. The house sat on the market for over a year before selling. I doubt we’ll be able to have a quick sell with that type of turn around. Did I mention we really like the house?! Some more negatives: Greg’s still employed there, his son gets free tuition, and his daughter already lives an hour away with her mother. It’s hard to just up and leave with all of this in the background. I’ll be losing health insurance, student loan forgiveness, and probably my mind by the end of spring semester.

I’m going to share my feelings through out this experience. I’m sure people can relate. I hope you never have to. It’s similar to the 5 Stages of Grief, instead these are the 7 Stages of being laid off.

 

1. Fear

I received a phone call from the President’s secretary around 9:30am on a Monday morning “The president wants to see you.” I just knew it was bad. I told my office mate, “Welp, I’m going to get fired.” My coworkers thought it was good news because I was just interviewed by the newspaper and the local radio about a unique course I was teaching at the college. They thought it was going to be good news..

 

2. Foresight

Like I said above, I saw it coming. As I walked to the office there was a security guard leaning against the wall. “Yup.” When I walked in, someone just walked out. Little did I or anyone else know it was going to be a fun-filled day of 30 people being laid off! He asks me to sit down, then reads off of a piece of paper, no eye contact, no regret. He didn’t know me, or anyone else he laid off that day. The man’s only been in this position for 4 months. He didn’t care, he doesn’t care.



3. Annoyance

I was so annoyed! I worked hard, every-single-day! I put in well over the 37.5 hours I was being paid for a week. I came in at night, on the weekends, early, late. I worked events that weren’t required of me. I worked so hard and it meant absolutely nothing.

 

4. Depression/uncertainty

You spend a lot of time thinking “I’m not good enough. I deserved this. I’m horrible at my job.” I went to work everyday for the rest of fall semester. The world continues to turn and people move on. People get over it, but you don’t. You really start to feel unwanted and deserving.



5. Anger

The terms of my layoff allows my department to hire a full-time tenure track position. Which I was not. So they’re in the process of hiring someone to TEACH THE CLASSES I TEACH! I know they had no say or control of the situation, but still. The college wants to save money, so they’re going to hire someone and pay them MORE than me to do what I was doing. I probably shouldn’t be so upset about this. I’m just in the angry phase right now. I feel bad for the people around me.

 

6. Acceptance

I’m trying to make my way into this mindset. It’s challenging when you’re practically Ash from Evil Dead. I believe I deserved my job because I went above and beyond. But I think everyone there could make this claim.

7. Positive attitude for what’s next

All I can say is I’m trying… planning, waiting..



I have some side jobs now like driving for Uber on the weekends and taking my real estate exam this month. I’ll continue applying for various positions. Maybe something will open up.

 

Remember, enjoy the little things.

 

One Reply to “Stages of being laid off”

  1. 🙁
    Cannot say much, as this is so upsetting and unsettling.
    I did go through a similar experience. I worked in OH at a good hospital, good laboratory, and did an exemplary job. I was an excellent employee and supervisor of a busy department that included Hematology, Coagulation, Special Hematology. Without warning, my position and that of like positions throughout the lab and entire hospital were called to a huge auditorium meeting to learn out fate. At least I had vacation and sick time accrued; at least they gave us some severance. I did not mind loss of health insurance as I did not use it. I did mind the impact on my career. (Within a few months, in all departments .. gradually our ‘jobs’ were assigned to those who had been assistants. That part may have hurt the most. We were still out.)

    All I can advise is, BELIEVE. As you have displayed, you can tackle nearly anything and successfully fulfill it. This is no different. Have FAITH in all that you are and KNOW that that door closed only to allow a new door with a brighter opportunity. Onward and Upward are all you can know. Until, keep on keeping on; exercise; oh yeah, and meditate. You are more than a job, and you give much more than any job requires. The Universe has a way of reward (and no resident/president can take it away.)
    XOXOX

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